the right steps counselling

The right steps counselling


A psychological trauma leaves deep wounds, which are not so easy to see and identify unfortunately. For some invisible reason, a person suffers from migraines, insomnia, heartaches and stomach pains. He develops phobias, anxiety and quite often has nightmares. He has difficulties in developing healthy relationships with others and in general, does not feel happy with himself. These are just a few common symptoms and consequences of psychological trauma. They persist and are organised into a specific record that plays around the clock, creating the background of your life. Based on my practice, I have identified 2 categories of psychological traumas:

Classical and Domestic.

Classical – these are the traumas that are understandable, obvious and fairly predictable. Any person will recall psychological trauma during and after military operations, catastrophes and natural phenomena (earthquakes, floods). This is a situation that can change and turn upside down a person’s life (even an entire country’s) in a few minutes or seconds. As a rule, the first reaction will be shock. Here are some of them:
-Physical injuries. Loss of body parts.
-Surgery. Removal of internal organs, amputation of body parts.
-Accidents. At work, for example construction, factories.
-Car accidents.
-Mental and physical abuse. Rape in the student community, in a married couple, in the family: children and parents (including close and distant relatives). These traumas apply equally to women and men. Most often, men hide this information for many years.
-Losses: loved ones, parents, children. This category includes abortions.
-Childbirth trauma. The natural process of childbirth often turns into a nasty nightmare, bringing physical and mental injuries to the mother or newborn baby or both.

It is important to realise that witnesses of such cases will also be shocked and experience symptoms of mental trauma.

Domestic – these are trauma/PTSD and psychological injuries which are unusual and invisible. Often they occur in domestic situations without physical damage. For simplicity, let’s call them “trauma/PTSD out of the blue”. Here are some examples from my practice:

– An unexpected slap in the face when a teenager asked an inappropriate question
– A fish bone stuck in the person’s throat and a long search for a hospital that agrees to provide urgent care
– A divorce is a highly traumatic event in life
– A child is living with a parent who has an addiction (alcohol, drug, game), also living with a parent who has mental illnesses
– An incident of robbery on a street
– A situation in a hospital ward when a loved one was disconnected from their life support machine
– An incident when a nursery teacher closed a small child in a dark closet which was considered an appropriate punishment
A case when a person suddenly witnessed a murder
A heated conflict between a teenager and his parent can be quite traumatic
– Bullying at school, college and work

These are just few examples from my 23 years of experience addressing psychological traumas.

It is important to realise that not only the person with the trauma suffers but also his environment, family, children, friends and colleagues suffer as well. For example, divorce occupies a high place on the emotional injury scale, it affects all members of a family, nuclear and extended: husband, wife, children, grandparents, sisters and brothers.

Psychological injuries torment a person not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. He begins to fear and avoid similar and completely different situations; his behaviour becomes irrational; he limits himself in making decisions; his life turns into survival, without specific reasons. Fears and phobias become constant companions of his life. During the first consultation a person does not immediately remember traumatic events in his life. It’s only after few sessions that he start to recall them and pulls them out of his memory.

Possessing highly effective techniques, I invite each of my client to address their trauma/PTSD. This process takes 1-3 consultations on average. As a result, the client immediately feels released and freed from his heavy emotional and mental burden. For comparison, every gardener will agree that the flowerbed must be cleaned from weeds and deep unwanted roots. Only after that it is wise to start planting new beautiful flowers.